Neither, people should stop complaining

Nope

Has anyone actually been to another meyal forum where the staff are better?

Sahar identifies as a woman. There's a difference. We still need to respect that and use the correct pronouns, she/her.

Sahar is a woman.

On personal front, Sahar was a great guy. I never realised that it will reach upto the point of animosity with staff, and shockingly for years. Lately, she was showing her signs of taking it personally, but from many years?Strange

People chose thief own way, own road in life to follow, wild west days when reapeter anf Cold lead a way are over.